Consultant Marriage Interview Preparation Guide

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Would a wife who is happy to be a housewife suit you? Do you want a sweet and caring wife who is family oriented, or are you looking for a business women? Do you want a wife with similar interests to you or do you think opposites attract?

What habits are a turn on and what are a turn off. Many girls say that smoking is a big turn off for them.

Most of the people go for arranged marriage. To me, one of the most interesting part of this is: When the girl and guy meet for the first time. This meeting is arranged by their parents. They are left alone to talk for 15-20 minutes. And there they decide whether they like each other or not. If yes, they get married, otherwise they continue looking for another girl/guy.

What do they talk about in those 15 minutes? Any funny, unique and naughty incidences you can share? What was running in your head in those 15 minutes? What did you ask the other person?

This question is not too important, but at times it becomes quite relevant. If your family is traditional or conservative and the girl loves western wear, then it might be a little difficult for her and your family to gel well. But, keep an open mind, as either you or the girl might be able to compromise on these things.

There must be no pressure from the parents of either side to start a family early.

The filmy dialog where one parent wants them to start a family so that the parent can see his grand child before leaving the world is clichéd and irrelevant these days.

Are you a girl who insists on a taller person as your mate?

What if he is just as tall as you, or even a little shorter? If he meets all other criteria, would you reject him?

Reply if it is fixed salary or profit percentage. Explain if you are not salaried people. You could be profit oriented. A business family is driven for profits and if it makes losses then it will pledge all its assets to make sure that family name doesn't get spoiled and salary is paid to employees first.

The bio data should spark some ideas of what you can ask your possible life partner about. For example you can ask, "What do you like about your hobby?" Or, you can say, "Oh, you like cooking and traveling - so do I!".

(Stupid question, I guess!) Can the wife cook non-veg food in her own kitchen when her vegetarian in laws come visiting? Will the children be brought up as veg or non-veg?

If you are such a girl, it may be an advantage to look for a boy whose mother is already dead! The traditional hostility between mother in law and daughter in law and anticipated problems from a mother in law, have been so effectively drilled into the minds of some girls, that they feel safer if the problem is avoided right in the beginning. I don't endorse this attitude of course, but if this virus has already crept into a young girls mind, she is better off discreetly making this check and avoiding a future problem.

Sort this out well in advance. I hate it when one party rejects the other and wriggles out of embarrassment by claiming the horoscopes did not match.

Many times a girl has family pressure to see a guy. Make her feel comfortable so that she can open up and tell the truth.

There must be agreement on this.

Will their respective incomes be deposited in a joint account?

I know couples where the man and his parents have access to the wife's money but not vice-versa.

Would you marry someone who meets all your other conditions but earns a little less than you?

Unfortunately, some of us are scandalized by this suggestion. I feel instead of giving so much importance to a horoscope, we could perhaps make this a mandatory test. Good jobs in good companies require tests for medical fitness. Shouldn't marriage too require a similar test? It may save the lives and destinies of unborn children.

A Housewife, business women or she is willing to play a dual role.

What about the children? What identity will they have? Will they learn both languages (fair, and possible) or will one have to submerge his/her linguistic identity totally for the sake of the other?

I know dark young men, who insist on fair brides. They openly admit that colour prejudice is rampant in our society. They claim they have suffered due to their dark complexion, and they want a fair bride so that their children at least have a better complexion and (by implication) a better deal in life.

Be very honest and tell the truth. Reply with the truth about what is allowed at home, what is allowed at social functions and what will be allowed at outings.

Of course no one will ask this question of the young man if the wife has an unmarried sister / brother!

It is important that you share your financial strategy with your partner, even if you are not going to combine assets, so that your partner knows where your money is and what your priorities are. Examples include your experience with the stock market, any current investments, how often do you balance your checkbook, where you donate money on a regular basis, etc. If you will be combining assets, it is essential that you are both honest about any debts as well as your spending history so that you both know what the situation looks like from the beginning. Not discussing finances prior to marriage is starting a marriage on shaky ground, which can only lead to more conflict and unhealthy patterns.

► Positive outlook
► Confidence
► Aggression
► Unpredictability
► Independent
► Adventurous
► Appreciative
► Honest
► Humorous
► Cool under fire
► Cocky and funny

► your likes and dislikes and hobbies; how do you pass your time
► how do you spend your day
► favorite type of movies, books, tv shows etc.
► do you like traveling; have you traveled before
► do you like reading
► your future plans
► what kind of job do you do
► do you have pets
► are you ok with moving to _____ ?
► can you host a party where there are drinks etc.?

► what qualities are you looking for in a partner
► are you an optimist or a pessimist
► why are you thinking to marry
► are you an introvert/extrovert
► have you lived independently; do you want to? before and after marriage
► what are you passionate about?
► are you ambitious
► have you ever faced a major crisis and how did you face it?
► Are you creative? - arts, dance, music etc.?

► learn some jokes
► practice answers to the questions above which you want to ask her
► learn to articulate well. think for 5 secs before you answer anything. Speak in elegant language
► Do not be overly negative/cynical about things.
► Clear your mind out - think slow and think what you want to say before you say it